Gem

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Berlin through the 24th of August, and the diary fills from the far end backwards. If you have a date in mind, name it now rather than in a fortnight.

To book, write me something in roughly this shape: Dear Goddxss Gem, I would like to see you on X date, at X time, for X hours, and the sort of session I have in mind is X. Screening is no trouble. Thank you, and sign it with your name. That is the whole formality, and I ask for it kindly.

For ten years before this I worked as a doula, looking after families through birth and the strange weeks that follow it. The job was to hold steady while people met the unknown. They were frightened. They wept, moaned, begged for mercy, leaked from every orifice they own, and found strength in themselves that nobody had budgeted for. Almost none of that training went to waste. Consent as a running conversation rather than a form signed at the door. Gentleness. Intuition. Honesty. Detailed, unhurried, personal care. Nervous system literacy. Massage, breath, embodiment. I use all of it now and I am glad of it.

If you are a beginner, or if the intimate experiences you have had so far were not all of them safe or rewarding, you have landed in the right place. My favourite clients want more than the physical half of it. Emotional intimacy. Safety on every level, not only the obvious one. Coaching, and the practical side of learning to be a better lover. Intimacy that is queer and gender non-conforming.

What I give back is honesty. I do not perform pleasure I am not having. I will tell you what I want, what I am feeling, how something lands with me, and what would make it better. If you want it, I will teach as we go. When to ask before you initiate, and how to ask it. How to read what is coming back to you. Where to put your weight, and when to stop moving altogether. You can walk out more confident than you walked in, if that is the goal.

Nervous about sending the first message? Nearly everyone is. Every one of them leaves afterwards in a soft, oxytocin-drunk fog of gratitude, which I have watched often enough now to treat as a law of nature. My own appetite is enormous, I adore kink and fantasy work, and I take both of them seriously.

Kinky? Very. Do you have to be? Not in the least. Hard limits, and they do not move: receiving anal, and any kind of unprotected play.

Sprichst du Deutsch? Aber gern, schreib ruhig auf Deutsch. Queer? Yes, queer and non-binary, and queer and trans clients are a particular joy to me.

The one thing I recommend to a new client is a six-month bundle. Once a month for half a year, at a better rate than one-off dates, and the pressure it takes off both of us is remarkable. More time together is the whole trick. Everything I am any good at needs a second and a third meeting to show up.

Cancellation, briefly. More than 24 hours out, the deposit rolls into a booking the following month. Under 24 hours, the full fee is due. It is a pleasure to read your enquiry and I already look forward to the date!